Sleepless, restless, cranky...

Damn, it's 6.30a.m and i'm still awake! Couldn't sleep~

Went to Icebar for this Dunhill event, came back, and couldn't sleep till now :(

Sigh~

Forgiveness works, but it is often difficult

"If we really want to love, we must learn how to
forgive."-Mother Theresa

Everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. I know I have. Perhaps your friend or partner criticized you. These wounds can leave you with lasting feelings of anger, bitterness and even vengeance. However, if you don't practice forgiveness, you may be the one who pays most greatly. By taking on forgiveness, you embrace peace, hope, gratitude and joy.

My take on forgiveness suggest that you focus on offering forgiveness to the person who has mistreated you. Basically, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of payback. The act that hurt or offended you may always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grasp on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life.

Forgiveness doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn't reduce or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act.

Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life. Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It is not something you do for someone else. It is done for the good of your well-being.

Forgiveness challenges you to give up your destructive thoughts about the situation and to believe in the possibility of a better future. It builds confidence that you can survive the pain and grow from it. If you keep having negative thoughts floating around your mind, you’re ‘destroying’ yourself, internally. Choice is always at hand in forgiveness. You do not have to forgive and there are consequences. Refusing to forgive by holding on to the anger, resentment and a sense of betrayal can make your own life miserable. A bitter mind-set creates bitterness and lets the betrayer claim one more victim.

When you're hurt by someone you love and trust, you may become angry, sad or confused. If you settle on hurtful events or situations, grudges filled with hatred, vengeance and aggression may take root. If you allow negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you may find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness. I have been holding grudges, and it has affected my relationships. It's hard. It tortures you, mentally.

If you're unforgiving, you may pay the price repeatedly by bringing anger and bitterness into every relationship and new experience. Your life may become so wrapped up in the wrong that you can't enjoy the present. You may become depressed or anxious. You may feel that your life lacks meaning or purpose. You may lose valuable and enriching connectedness with others. Forgiving someone else is to agree within yourself to overlook the wrong they have committed against you and to move on with your life. It's the only way. It means cutting them some slack.

"What?" "Cut them some slack after what they did to me? Never!"

Let go! Move on! Though it is easily said than done. But, nothing is impossible with a little work.

Non-forgiveness keeps you in the struggle. Being willing to forgive can bring a sense of peace and well-being. It lifts anxiety and delivers you from depression. It can enhance your self-esteem and give you hope.

Yea, I know it's hard to forgive someone. Though you say it all the time, "I forgave him/her".

But, did you really let go? Honestly, I, myself have not been cutting myself some slack!! Hahaha~

But, hey. I'm trying. Haha~

Rat-pooing and out,

♥Joanna♥